A New Adventure

Sky Diver I am setting of on one of the biggest, most exiting and dangerous adventures of my life. And I am not talking about my trip to Ecuador.

Grace Chambers and I are now officially courting. And by official I mean Facebook official. After several meetings with her dad he asked her if she was interested in starting a relationship and she said “yes.” If you don’t know Grace yet I’ll just say you’re missing out on an amazing friend.

I don’t really know much about courtship having only observed it from a distance. In other words I have no idea what I am doing. It is fun though, in that top of the roller coaster looking down afraid for you life kinda way that is..

You know when you are about to jump out of a plane and your realize that 10,000 feet is a lot farther down than you thought? You know that as soon as you step off that plane you will feel sheer terror and then either either a happy landing or splat.

Splat is not an ending of the relationship. Splat is dishonoring God. We don’t want splat.

I want this courtship to be fun and God honoring. I don’t think those things are mutually exclusive but blending them is a challenge. We live between two cultures. One values hedonistic pleasure over holiness. The other looks down on others with contempt and pride and sees most pleasure as some form of sin.

I will be blogging occasionally on what I learn as we go. Maybe you can learn from us and avoid our mistakes.

Risk
One thing I do know about relationships is that they are risky. I think the guy especially needs to take risks and that can be hard. When it doesn’t work out it can hurt, a lot. A good friend of mine took a risk in courtship and it didn’t work out. And while he honored God he is still in a lot of pain.

If relationships were easy would we value them as much? Or does the risk and the danger make them special?

Grace and I officially started courting on Wednesday March 12. Since then Grace has the flu and I am leaving for a different continent. The challenges of long distance relationships has just been multiplied by a factor of $2 per minute phone rates and 3000 extra miles.

I can’t wait to get back to Texas 🙂

Thomas Umstattd Jr. is the author of Courtship in Crisis, the former head of PracticalCourtship.com, and co-founder of the Austin Rhetoric Club, a homeschool speech and debate club in Austin, Texas. He is a professional speaker and CEO of Author Media. He sits on the board of directors for several nonprofits, including the Texas Alliance for Life.

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3 thoughts on “A New Adventure

  1. I was wondering if Miss Grace feels the same way about the beginning of a (this) courtship; like the numerous analogies that Thomas uses: being at the top of a roller coaster, or getting ready to jump out of an airplane. 10,000 feet is a bit farther down than first thought.

    Grace, I hope you read these blogs about you :-).

    No splat. Happy landing.

  2. Thomas,

    Congrats. I heard about this from Shaney and I was like: MAN! I need to get a facebook so I can be SOMEWHAT informed. Well, we'll see. I may not have time for a facebook.

    Mom says she approves. 🙂 I thought that I saw some chemistry going on when y'all first met. God bless y'all.

    I can't wait for you to be back in Texas tooooo!!!! :runs off crying: Naw, not really. 🙂 Still, come back.

    >Brian

  3. Thomas, I am thrilled for you and Grace (even though I have not had the pleasure of meeting her yet). Rico and I went the courtship route. . . kind of. . . ours was complicated, but it followed courtship better than any other description. 🙂 I am praying for the best for ya'll and want to reaffirm that honoring God is the only way to go – and the blessings of doing things the right way are totally unspeakable and beyond anything you can imagine. God really does know how his creations work best! (Fancy that.) 🙂

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