How do I say “no” to a second date without being mean?

The following post is a selection from my book Courtship in Crisis. If we can get this right as a community, it will make Traditional Dating a lot easier for everyone. Thomas, I want on a date with J and while we had a good time, I don’t think we’re a good fit. Don’t get […]

Help End the Courtship Crisis: Buy a Copy Today

A year ago today I wrote a blog post titled Why Courtship is Fundamentally Flawed. I hoped to reach 10,000 people. It ended up reaching over 1,000,000 people, led to a successful Kickstarter campaign, and the book Courtship in Crisis which came out just over a week ago. You never know what small thing will change […]

Dear Graduate – Advice I Wish I Received After High School 

In the last couple of weeks, several high school graduates have asked me for advice about college. They are facing their first life-changing decision and are rightfully concerned about making good choices. So, here are all the things I wish someone had told me after I graduated high school. Feel free to share this with […]

Is Thomas Umstattd Jr. Married?

Last year I wrote a blog post titled Why Courtship is Fundamentally Flawed. In that post, I explained how I went from a courtship advocate running PracticalCourtship.com to no longer believing that Modern Courtship is a viable model for most people. The post went viral. I hoped to reach ten or twenty thousand people. The post […]

Why Courtship is Fundamentally Flawed

I grew up as a member of the homeschool community. When I was a teenager, my friends started reading this new book called I Kissed Dating Goodbye. For months we could talk of little else. After reading it myself, I grew into as big an opponent of dating as you could find. Dating was evil and Courtship, whatever it was, was godly, good and Biblical.

How to Tell the Difference Between “Real Friends” and “Facebook Friends”

I started using Facebook back in September 2005. In those days, Facebook had big brother in the logo and was only for college students. I remember when Facebook came to UMHB. There was a mad rush on the IT department of students doing password resets so that they could get access to their .edu email […]